Knowing When To Surrender
It’s okay to surrender to what life is giving you sometimes. That’s how you know you are truly letting go.
Happy Soulful Sunday, my love.
Surrender.
A word that sounds so scary, but is truly one of the most beautiful acts of nurturing oneself.
When I first was told to surrender, it was in the context of learning how to better my meditation practice. I understood the teaching monk's point of surrendering being a way to completely submit myself to relaxation and stillness. However, I didn’t quite master the lesson right then and there like I hoped to.
Maybe because when I heard the word ‘surrender,’ I associated it with battle, war and hardship so I didn’t understand how I was supposed to surrender to good when I’ve been taught my whole life that when one surrenders it is usually to bad.
Fast forward a year later, I received my favorite Friday newsletter from Jaime Varon, and once again, Jaime’s words mirror my emotions and speak to me deeper than I anticipated.
This particular newsletter had to do with delusional dreaming, where she spoke on how fantasy is merely a distraction to the dream of action. This got me thinking; honestly, Jamie’s newsletter in the past few weeks had me thinking and understanding more about myself as a writer and a person. In addition to the book I just read and some other powerful posts, I landed on the lesson I took from all the enlightenment I was experiencing… surrender.
Little did I know last week that I would be engraving this lesson to my brain to manage my mental health and keep myself feeling cared for.
Surrendering is more than admitting defeat in a battle, but it is also releasing your control to an energy that is much more powerful than your own.
It wasn’t until I was faced with overthinking, fantasizing and overanalyzing that I realized that the key to keeping me feeling nurtured and happy was to simply surrender.
Surrender by letting go of the thought(s) that held me still and wanted to confuse me away from my present moment. Surrender by accepting what is. Surrender by letting myself feel what I need to feel to get through this current temporary. Surrender by being present and trusting in the divine timing of destinies meant for me in this life.
My beautiful friend, I learned that I don’t need to have fear of the word surrender because to surrender is actually the most humble and selfless thing a person can do in their day to day life.
Yes, control may seem more logical but does it actually feel better to control a fate that may not even be meant for you?
In my experience, control is shittier than release. Control has never really brought me any good or any comfort as much as acting/responding in the moment has done for me.
Surrendering is actually a tool to relaxation, which a monk had tried to teach me a year ago. I had to learn it outside of my meditation practice, but it is definitely an action I will now use to put myself in a meditative state of peace and centeredness.
So, gorgeous, what do you need to surrender to? What feelings or thoughts have you been fighting that you just need to confront and accept to move forward to clarity and more peace?
You definitely don’t need to give me the answer, but I highly recommend you take a moment to give yourself the answer and lay this conflict to rest.
Remember, just because you surrender to ‘what is’ doesn’t mean you have to accept it as a sentencing of your quality of life. You can always take better steps for a more preferred outcome once you recognize the circumstance for what it is and act for what you want or deserve.
As always, I am wishing you a beautiful week ahead, my beauties.
Until next time 💚